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Choose "1" for "I don't feel like this" through "10" for "high feelings in this area."

ABANDONMENT – "I am all alone. I have been overlooked. I will always be alone. They do not need me. I don't matter. No one even cares. They are not coming back. There is no one to protect me. God has forsaken me too. No one will believe me. I cannot trust anyone. I am afraid they won't come back."  

SHAME – "I am so stupid, ignorant, an idiot. I should have done something to have stopped it from happening. I allowed it. I was a participant. I should have known better. It was my fault. I should have told someone. I knew what was going to happen yet I stayed anyway. I felt pleasure so I must have wanted it. It happened because of my looks, my gender, my body, etc. I should have stopped them. I did not try to run away. I deserved it. I am cheap. I was paid for service rendered. I kept going back. I'm bad, dirty, shameful, sick, nasty."

"FEAR – I am going to die, he/she is going to hurt me. I do not know what to do. If I tell they will come back and hurt me. If I trust, I will die. He/she/they are coming back. It is just a matter of time before it happens again. If I let him/her/them into my life they will hurt me too. Something bad will happen if I tell, stop it, confront it. They are going to get me. Doom is just around the corner."

POWERLESSNESS – "I cannot stop this. He/she/they are too strong to resist. There is no way out. I am too weak top resist. The pain is too great to bear. I cannot get away. I am going to die and I cannot do anything about it. I cannot get loose. I am overwhelmed. I don't know what to do. Everything is out of control. I am pulled from every direction. Not even God can help me. I am too small to do anything."

TAINTED - "I am dirty, shameful, evil, perverted, etc. because of what happened to me. My life is ruined. I will never feel clean again. Everyone can see my shame, filth, dirtiness, etc. I will always be hurt/damaged/broken because of what happened. I will never be happy. I will always be unclean, filthy, etc. God could never want me after what has happened to me. My body parts are dirty. No one will ever really be able to love me."

INVALIDATION - "I am not loved, needed, wanted, cared for, or important. They do not need me. I am worthless, have no value. I am unimportant. I was a mistake. I should have never been born. I am in the way. I am a burden. I was never liked by them because I was _________, God could never love me or accept me. I could never be as _________ as she/he. I could never measure up to please him/her. I am not acceptable."

HOPELESSNESS - "It is never going to get any better. There is no way out. It will just happen again and again. There is no good thing for me. I have no reason to live. There are no options for me. I just want to die. Nothing good will ever come of this."

CONFUSION – "I don't know what is happening to me. Everything is confusing. This does not make any sense. Why would they do this to me? I hear my own voice speaking to me as if it were coming from some place else. Parts of my mind have different perspectives in conflict with each other. I am hearing other voices among my own voice.”

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© 2022 Thomas Kasperek - Soul Care Ministries    Adapted from Ed Smith and Joshua Smith

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